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10/19/2008

Y!A - How could two incompatible people who love each other get along?

Question asked originally on Yahoo! Answers - Original Link

My answer: (selected as best by Asker)

The answer is in the word "compatibility."

There are many levels of compatibility depending on the people involved.

For example, two people could be compatible in the way they care about people in general. Some people care more than others, and it's very hard to find someone who would care about another person so much that they would be willing to be completely open and take risks. So when someone like this finds another person that is the same way, they are compatible in a very deep level. At the same time, they might disagree about more superficial things, such as whether they should live in a house or an apartment, or about the government, or about whether they should work on weekends or not.

So even though they will be constantly fighting about these more superficial things, deep inside they have a much stronger connection that holds them together.

Often however, it's the opposite that happens. Two people meet and they instantly connect on superficial things. They like to go to the same places, do the same things, etc. And so they think that they could have a good relationship. But then, they eventually realize that deep inside they're incompatible. When this is the case, no matter what they do, the relationship is going to fail, because no matter how much they connect on trivial things, their personalities don't.

This is probably one of the main reasons why so many divorces happen today. Most people live very superficial lives, so they're unable to notice when they connect to people in a deeper level and when they don't. By the time they realize that they don't connect they're already married, and then the only thing left to do is to try and hold on to a relationship that's doomed to fail or get a divorce and look for someone else.
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